Review
Praise for One Month to Live
“So
many of us waste our lives with ‘when and then’ thinking, believing
that ‘when’ this or that happens, ‘then’ we will really start living
and do something for God that really matters. That approach is
guaranteed to leave you with regrets. At the end of your life, the only
thing that will matter is whether you accomplished God’s purpose for
your life. Jesus was just 12 when he said, ‘I must be about My Father’s
business.’ Barely 20 years later, he could say to the Father, ‘I have
completed the work you gave me to do.’ If we all had that kind of focus
and concentration in our lives, there’s no telling what God could
accomplish in the world! Kerry and Chris Shook want you to grasp that
amazing insight: Embracing your mortality sets you free to live a
meaningful and significant life without regret.
One Month to Live is a great way to discover the purposeful, joyful, abundant life God created you to enjoy!”
–
Rick Warren, founding pastor, Saddleback Church, and author of international bestseller,
The Purpose Driven Life
“Kerry
and Chris Shook are world-class leaders whose lives and ministry have
impacted untold numbers of people, including me. Regardless of where
you are on your spiritual journey,
One Month to Live will challenge you to passionately live the life you were made for and leave an eternal legacy.”
–
Bill Hybels, Founding Pastor, Willowcreek Church and bestselling author of
Too Busy Not to Pray “Kerry
Shook is a friend, devoted father, supportive husband, and inspiring
pastor. As one of today’s most gifted communicators, Kerry’s unique and
creative style enables him to take the most complex issues and make
them practical and relevant to daily living. He has a genuine love for
people that is contagious. ...
--This text refers to the
Kindle Edition
edition.
Review
Praise for One Month to Live
“So
many of us waste our lives with ‘when and then’ thinking, believing
that ‘when’ this or that happens, ‘then’ we will really start living
and do something for God that really matters. That approach is
guaranteed to leave you with regrets. At the end of your life, the only
thing that will matter is whether you accomplished God’s purpose for
your life. Jesus was just 12 when he said, ‘I must be about My Father’s
business.’ Barely 20 years later, he could say to the Father, ‘I have
completed the work you gave me to do.’ If we all had that kind of focus
and concentration in our lives, there’s no telling what God could
accomplish in the world! Kerry and Chris Shook want you to grasp that
amazing insight: Embracing your mortality sets you free to live a
meaningful and significant life without regret.
One Month to Live is a great way to discover the purposeful, joyful, abundant life God created you to enjoy!”
–
Rick Warren, founding pastor, Saddleback Church, and author of international bestseller,
The Purpose Driven Life
“Kerry
and Chris Shook are world-class leaders whose lives and ministry have
impacted untold numbers of people, including me. Regardless of where
you are on your spiritual journey,
One Month to Live will challenge you to passionately live the life you were made for and leave an eternal legacy.”
–
Bill Hybels, Founding Pastor, Willowcreek Church and bestselling author of
Too Busy Not to Pray “Kerry
Shook is a friend, devoted father, supportive husband, and inspiring
pastor. As one of today’s most gifted communicators, Kerry’s unique and
creative style enables him to take the most complex issues and make
them practical and relevant to daily living. He has a genuine love for
people that is contagious. His ministry is changing the lives of
individuals and families here in Houston and transforming communities
all across the nation.”
–
Joel Osteen, pastor of Lakewood Church and bestselling author of
Your Best Life Now
“If
you want new urgency, fresh purpose, and a sharper focus for your life,
then this book is for you. Read it and your future may be changed
forever!”
–
Lee Strobel, author of
The Case for the Real Jesus
Product Description
Take the 30-Days to Live Challenge at www.OneMonthtoLive.com!What
if you only had one month to live? How would you make each day
meaningful? How would you relate to others differently? What would you
do to make the rest of your life
really matter?
With eye-opening insights and soul-inspiring truths,
One Month to Live
will challenge you to embrace the life God has entrusted to you and you
alone, and to live it out moment by moment with wholehearted
authenticity, honesty, and integrity.
Each chapter overflows
with inspiring quotations, colorful true stories, and questions for
reflection. The four sections, which can be read over four weeks, help
you examine the core areas inside you that long to be exercised and
expressed: how you’re made to live passionately, love boldly, learn
from your mistakes, and leave a legacy that endures for generations
after you’re gone. Complete with uplifting action points, each of the
thirty chapters–one per day in a life-changing month–offers you fresh
strategies for overcoming habits that mire you in mediocrity.
Open yourself to the challenge of embracing your mortality and being empowered to live each day engaged in being fully alive.
About the Author
Kerry Shook and his wife,
Chris,
founded Fellowship of The Woodlands in 1993; and since then, the church
has grown to 16,380 in average attendance each weekend. Fellowship of
The Woodlands, now Woodlands Church, is one church in three locations
with its Fellowship campus in The Woodlands outside of Houston, Texas.
Winner of the prestigious Church Health Award presented by Saddleback
Church, Kerry and his church have been featured in numerous
publications and media outlets, and his sermons are televised each week
across the country and around the world. Kerry and Chris are the
parents of four children.
Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.
Day 1: Introduction
Living the Dash
“Death is more universal than life; everyone dies but not everyone lives.”
–ALAN SACHS
“I
am convinced that it is not the fear of death, of our lives ending,
that haunts our sleep so much as the fear…that as far as the world is
concerned, we might as well never have lived.”
–HAROLD KUSHNER
Your
time on earth is limited. No matter how much this idea makes you
squirm, it’s a fact. No matter who you are, how young or old, what
measure of success you’ve attained, or where you live, mortality
remains the great equalizer. With each tick of the clock, a moment of
your life is behind you. Even as you read this paragraph, seconds
passed that you can never regain. Your days are numbered, and each one
that passes is gone forever.
If you’re like me, you may be
tempted to view this reality as harsh and unwelcome, to let it
overwhelm and even paralyze you. But that’s not my purpose in writing
this book–just the opposite. Rather than inhibiting us to play it safe,
I’m convinced that
embracing our time on earth as a limited resource has incredible power to liberate us. For
most of us, if we knew we only had one month to live, we would live
differently. We would be more authentic about who we are and more
deliberate about how we spent our time. But such a contrast begs the
question:
what keeps us from living this way now?
My
motivation to find the answer–and better yet, to live it and help you
live it–is born in part from my experience in ministry. In this role
I’ve been privileged to spend time with many people as they face the
imminent end of their lives on earth. While all of them struggle
through the stages of grief–shock, denial, bargaining, guilt, anger,
depression, acceptance–most of them make radical changes as a result of
their awareness of their terminal conditions. They take license to say
what they really feel and do what they really want. They ask for
forgiveness and forgive others. They no longer think only of themselves
but reach out to those they love and let them know how much they mean.
They take risks they would never have taken before and allow themselves
to lay worry aside and gratefully accept each new day. They seem to
gain a new clarity on their priorities, like their relationship with
God and leaving legacies that will endure.
Over the years of watching others live out their last days, I began to ask myself,
Why
can’t all of us live more like we’re dying? Isn’t that how we were
meant to live in the first place? To discover what we’re made for and
to utilize our unique gifts in the limited amount of time we’re given?
So last year at a staff retreat I tried a little experiment
and asked our team members this question: “If you knew you had one
month
to live, how would you live differently?” I gave everyone a journal and
challenged them to live the next thirty days as if they were their last
and to write down what happened.
The results were nothing less
than life changing! At the end of the thirty days, we all had a greater
clarity of purpose and a renewed passion for the things that really
matter. Many people did big, once-in-a-lifetime things, like going on a
dream vacation to Hawaii with their spouse, finally getting serious
about a healthy lifestyle and losing twenty-five pounds, or reconciling
a relationship with a parent that had been neglected for years.
For
me, the little, daily things took on a whole new meaning and forever
changed my life. Taking my youngest two children to school every day
became a real joy. I became keenly aware of what a sacred moment it is
every morning to play twenty questions with Steven and to make up silly
songs with my teenage daughter, Megan. I made sure that I met my two
oldest sons, Ryan and Josh, at their favorite restaurant once a week
after school just to connect. Many of our staff members did whatever it
took to be at all their children’s ball games, recitals, and school
events. At the same time, I noticed that the team was more productive
than ever, wanting the things they did at work to make a lasting impact.
I’ve
since come to believe that the one-month-to-live lifestyle is universal
in principle but unique in its expression. If we all lived as if we had
one month left on this earth, we would each spend our days differently,
in ways unique to us, and yet I believe we would all experience more
fulfilling lives that could leave a legacy for eternity.
One Little Dash
Perhaps
no place echoes with eternity quite like a cemetery. Not surprisingly,
I’m fascinated by old gravestones and the lives they represent. The
dates on some of the old monuments and grave markers in the Houston
area where I live go back to the eighteen hundreds. My imagination
launches me into the various stories that each marker tells. I find
myself pondering what life was like in 1823 or 1914.
I know
people back then had the same problems and pain as everyone does in
life, but I wonder if they felt as stressed and pressured as I do. Our
technology and modern conveniences have revolutionized our
twenty-first-century lives but at what price?
Looking at old
tombstones, I can’t help but recognize that entire lives are now
reduced before me into two dates and one little dash. Some monuments
include facts or sayings, Bible verses or poignant memorials, but each
person’s life really comes down to what transpired between those two
dates. It comes down to what’s in the dash. I look at the dash of a
particular person’s marker and wonder,
What did he live for? Whom did she love? What were his passions? What were her biggest mistakes and greatest regrets?
When
you think about it, we don’t have control over many things in life. We
didn’t get to decide where we were born, who our parents are, or which
time period and culture we face. We don’t get to decide the dates on
our gravestone. We don’t know when our time on this earth will be up.
It could be next week or next year or decades away. Only God knows. Our
lives are in His hands. But there is one thing we have a vast amount of
control over. We get to decide how we’re going to use our dash.
You
get to choose how to spend that little dash of time between the two
dates of your earthly existence. What are you spending yours on? Are
you living the dash, knowing fully who you are and why you’re here? Or
dashing to live, hurriedly spending precious time chasing things that
really don’t matter to you? The psalmist prayed, “Teach us to number
our days and recognize how few they are; help us to spend them as we
should” (Psalm 90:12, TLB). God wants us to realize that our time on
earth is limited so we will spend it wisely. But He gives us the choice
about how we spend this most valuable currency.
No Change Required
While
many of the people I’ve known who are facing death make radical changes
in order to die well, occasionally I meet some who change very little.
It’s not that they are unwilling to change. It’s that they have lived
so deliberately and so authentically that the news of the end of this
life doesn’t turn them upside down. Of course they grieve and struggle
with the news. They ache for their families and the people they love.
But they take comfort in knowing they have been living focused on what
matters most to them: their relationships with the ones they love,
their relationship with the God of the universe, and the fulfillment of
their unique purpose on this earth.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful to
spend your life so that if you discovered you only had a month to live,
you wouldn’t need to change a thing? What’s holding you back? What are
you waiting on? Repeatedly in Scripture, God reminds us that our lives
are short compared to eternity.
“Why, you do not even know
what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that
appears for a little while and then vanishes” (James 4:14).
Of
course I’m not encouraging you simply to live for today. Most of us
can’t afford to quit our jobs overnight, say what we’re really feeling
all the time, or act on every spontaneous idea. This kind of a
lifestyle seems selfish and wildly indulgent and may indicate that such
a person doesn’t believe there’s anything beyond this life. But life is
more than what we know of it on earth. Even as we engage ourselves in
the present, we must think through the eternal impact of how we live.
The
Bible tells us that God has placed eternity in our hearts (Ecclesiastes
3:11). He created us in His own image as spiritual beings but in
fleshly bodies. If we’re honest, most of us sense there has to be more
to our existence than what this world can offer.
This is the
point where many people turn to faith. But just as some people live
like there’s no tomorrow, others use their faith to live like there’s
no today. They’re always thinking about heaven “some day” instead of
fully experiencing life today. The only way we can live for eternity is
to embrace each day as a gift from God. We must live in the tipping
point between the everyday and the eternal. He created us and has given
us another day to live–to know and experience His love, to love and
serve those around us, to live passionately the life He’s made us for.
The temporal nature of our lives should keep our focus on what matters
most.
Thirty-Day Challenge
Be brutally honest with yourself.
Your time on earth is limited. Shouldn’t you start making the most of it? If
you knew you had one month to live, you would look at everything from a
different perspective. Many of the things you do now that seem so
important would immediately become meaningless. You would have total
clarity about wha...